How Many Mind Readers Do You Know?
Most of you would probably say none, at least none that you might know of, but one thing that’s struck me in recent weeks is that we often believe we know at least one – at least on a subconscious level.
What I mean is that many people, and I’ve been guilty of this too, assume that those people closest to us should know what we’re thinking. We feel that we don’t need to say words, our expressions should be enough. In other words, someone in particular should know us well enough to “know” what we’re thinking or needing.
Nice idea but its wrong!
Let’s think about this realistically, why should anyone “know” us inside and out? It’s not practical, and it’s not really logical. Sure, some people do find partners, or friends, or siblings etc, who might really be tuned in to us, but they can get it wrong sometimes too.
Other people have their own lives going on, even if we share a portion of their lives, we’re not the be all and end all of anyone’s life – no matter how pleasing that might sound. Taking this into consideration why should they know us to the point where we don’t have to open our mouths?
It’s just so easy to fall into bad habits where we take things for granted.
I went through a stage recently where something happened and I couldn’t get my head around why nobody would even ask me. Well, it was in relation to something of a sensitive nature and basically I hadn’t given them permission to ask about it.
This is when it hit home, that no matter how close people are they just aren’t mind readers. They can’t know our needs unless we tell them, they can’t know what’s bugging us unless we tell them. No matter how frustrating and how much like hard work it might be to open your mouth up to tell them, it really IS the best way.
Communication is what it all boils down to.
