Platitudes Should be Banned!
Platitude
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A platitude is a trite, meaningless, biased, or prosaic statement that is presented as if it were significant and original. The word derives from plat, the French word for “flat.” Whether any given statement is considered to have meaning is highly subjective, so platitude is often—but not always—used as a pejorative term to describe seemingly profound statements that a certain person views as unoriginal or shallow.
I don’t know how many times I’ve wanted to slap people for being so insensitive for using platitudes, if I had a dollar for every time I heard one I think I could have paid a mortgage off by now!
Come on people…..THINK, THINK, THINK!!! We have these amazing brains in our thick skulls yet so many people can’t come up with something original OR thoughtful when needed!
You know the saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”? I think they need to add something to that – If you can’t say anything nice or if you’re going to say something nice that everyone and their dog has said before you, don’t say it at all!
I’m going through a tough time emotionally, in the grip of depression again and I have my ways of fighting against it. It doesn’t always work but I am a fighter so I battle on, I fall down, I pick myself up again, I fall again…pick myself up, and it goes on until I am not battling to pick myself up because I can stand up on my own without falling.
I don’t need stupid, insensitive, feel good, bullshit lines that people “think” are going to help! Don’t patronise me!!!!
I have to admit this is something that can often get a big “F**k You” as a response!
I even hate platitudes more these days. Two years ago I lost my twins during the pregnancy. You want to hear what I got for sympathy and support?
“It’s probably for the best!” Ya think? Best for WHO?
“At least they’re with God now” I don’t care who you think they are with, give them back, they’re MY babies! They’re not anyone else’s to have!
“You can try again!” How insensitive of you, thanks for your kindness! *slap*
You get the idea!
It brings me to another of my pet hates which is that unbelievable need for people to be fortune tellers!
“Everything will be fine!”
“You’ll be alright!”
Now bear in mind, while I was having my own concerns about the safety of my babies while they were inside me, I was told these things constantly….such patronising little pats on the head aren’t they! And while they all said it will be fine etc…it WAS NOT! My babies died, so I went back to these people who then said “everything will be fine” and “you’ll be alright” about the next thing going on with me and said “Are you sure because you were WRONG the last time!”
“Okay so what the hell are you leading up to then?” I hear you ask….
Well, it’s like this, I’m going through a bout of depression, and it’s a time like this that I really would like to be able to talk to friends about what I’m going through or feeling. You know, have someone there to ‘lean on’ for a moment, have a vent, purge some of my crap and feel that they’re not looking at their watch dying to get away. It would be nice to be able to sit and talk to someone and just escape my own thoughts, but I’m finding it hard to find someone who isn’t going to give me the damn pep talk.
Now, any of you out there with depression would KNOW that this isn’t going to help, if anything it will just push me deeper into myself feeling that nobody gives two shits!
So I say, they should ban platitudes and take away every wannabe psychic’s crystal ball!
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